Friendliness and unconditional appreciations are primary conditions for successful learning and social and personal growth. I believe that they are also a prerequisite for economic prosperity. However, we have to include benefits and costs in the area of social interaction and personal growth into the overall balance.
This relationship has been proven many times for successful coaching and managing, also in the Google study “Oxygen”.
Nevertheless, it is very different in general perception and public discussion. There the impression prevails that ruthlessness and the protection of one’s interests are the most successful and predominant strategies. I think this is a widespread mistake, a delusion. The Dutch historian Rutger Bregman has worked extensively on this (2020). He concludes that not the strongest in human history survived, but the friendliest!
Unconditional positive regard
“we cannot change, we cannot move away from what we are, until we thoroughly accept what we are. Then change seems to come about almost unnoticed.“
“the more I can keep a relationship free of judgment and evaluation, the more this will permit the other person to reach the point where he recognizes that the locus of evaluation, the center of responsibility, lies within himself.”
“If you look at the history of life and those big leaps that have contributed to the success of a species, then they can all be explained with increased cooperation.”
Quote from an Zeit-interview with behavioral scientist Brian Hare, author of the book” The Survival of the Friendliest “